Saturday, March 28, 2020

Is it Possible to Be Happy After Serious Tragedy?

Fran Caffey Sandin, a retired nurse, has authored two books, contributed to several anthologies and magazines. Fran lost two sons. She shares her story of how she found the strength to get through severe trauma.

Through all this heart-wrenching loss, including her father's suicide, she has learned much including what the three stages of grief are and how to survive them.  

She teaches us that we can overcome the effects of tragedy and how to help others survive their circumstances.

We need to know what to say and what not to say when our friends are suffering. 

During her interview, she details the three stages of grief:

  1. Crisis
  2. Crucible
  3. Construction

Fran’s first book, See You Later, Jeffrey, was written after the death of Fran and Jim’s third child, Jeffrey who succumbed to bacterial meningitis, that attacks the brain and spinal cord, when he was 17 months old.

Before the meningitis vaccine, many children between the ages of 6 months and 3 years were stricken. Fran was shocked and shaken by his illness and death, asking many questions.

After two years she felt led to minister to other parents who lost a child and probably asking the same questions.

This book has been translated into Russian and widely distributed in Ukraine and Germany.

Fran's book, Touching the Clouds: True Stories to Strengthen Your Faith, she interviews 15 women who had life-changing experiences and how they overcame life's disappointments and tragedies. At the end of each chapter, she includes practical ideas for the reader to incorporate into their life.

Fran also shares the story of losing her father to suicide and answers the question: Is God punishing me? Click here to purchase



  1. I have a friend who also lost two sons. One to suicide and one was murdered. I can't imagine that kind of pain. She is moving forward, though. Sounds like an amazing book and Fran is an amazing woman.

    1. Yes, Fran is a woman of incredible strength. Thank you for commenting.

    2. Yes, Fran is an amazing and strong woman. Thank you for commenting.